February 12, 2007
I'm really excited about the maturity continuum. I know that sounds pretty nerdy but since we learned it in class I have been evaluating all sorts of relationship and seeing where people rank along the continuum.
This principal is relevant in every relationship. It is important to become emotionally mature in order to elevate one's relationships. For example, if I am emotionally mature, everyone I interact with will have to be elevated or they will not be able to communicate with me on the same level.
I've already tried to apply this principal in all of my relationships. I also can see it working in others' relationships as well.
I taught this principal to Tyson right after I learned it because I was so excited about it. He thought it was pretty cool. He started evaluating all sorts of relationships after I told him. It was pretty fun.
Tuesday, February 13, 2007
Role Play
February 9, 2007
Expanding on the role play today was very interesting. I finally feel like we are getting somewhere. We are unlocking some really great informations and getting that much closer to the heart of the “onion.”
One thing that really caught my attention in class today was just a simple quote that Brother Adams said, “couples that fight are not at the end of their relationship, it is when they stop fighting and are no longer emotionally invested that the relationship is over.” There is a lot of wisdom to this quote. I can see how it is very relevant in everyday life. Obviously it isn't good to fight, there are better ways to solve problems, but it does not necessarily mean the end of the relationship.
I told Tyson about this quote, he agreed with it and could see how it is relevant. Pretty cool.
Expanding on the role play today was very interesting. I finally feel like we are getting somewhere. We are unlocking some really great informations and getting that much closer to the heart of the “onion.”
One thing that really caught my attention in class today was just a simple quote that Brother Adams said, “couples that fight are not at the end of their relationship, it is when they stop fighting and are no longer emotionally invested that the relationship is over.” There is a lot of wisdom to this quote. I can see how it is very relevant in everyday life. Obviously it isn't good to fight, there are better ways to solve problems, but it does not necessarily mean the end of the relationship.
I told Tyson about this quote, he agreed with it and could see how it is relevant. Pretty cool.
Thursday, February 8, 2007
Emotional Aikido
February 7, 2007
Today in communications we had a very hands on lesson that taught us the importance of practicing “emotional Aikido” versus “emotional Wang Chung.” This was a really fun class and important lesson for me to learn personally. I think often it is so easy to become defensive and hurt each other's feelings because we want the other person to know exactly how we feel or perceive them to be. It is very important to be patient with people and understand where they are coming from; it is also important to cool down and think about what we say before we do or say something we might regret (emotional Wang Chung).
In applying this principal I notice that I am more patient and understanding. I try to take the energy of the person I am listening to and use that to communicate with them instead of getting worked up and using a lot more energy than needed. I find that I let the little things “roll off my back” and I am not as uptight.
I taught this principal to Tyson. He thought it was pretty interesting and he could easily see how it is important when communicating.
Today in communications we had a very hands on lesson that taught us the importance of practicing “emotional Aikido” versus “emotional Wang Chung.” This was a really fun class and important lesson for me to learn personally. I think often it is so easy to become defensive and hurt each other's feelings because we want the other person to know exactly how we feel or perceive them to be. It is very important to be patient with people and understand where they are coming from; it is also important to cool down and think about what we say before we do or say something we might regret (emotional Wang Chung).
In applying this principal I notice that I am more patient and understanding. I try to take the energy of the person I am listening to and use that to communicate with them instead of getting worked up and using a lot more energy than needed. I find that I let the little things “roll off my back” and I am not as uptight.
I taught this principal to Tyson. He thought it was pretty interesting and he could easily see how it is important when communicating.
Monday, February 5, 2007
Emotions and Communicating
February 5, 2007
I discussed with a co-worker today the idea of all our emotions stemming from love and fear. It was a pretty interesting conversation. We went through all the emotions we could think of and trace them back to their roots. It was really fun to point out that jealousy stems from fear, etc.
I'm not quite sure how to apply this knowledge to communications. In a way it is useful to better understand my own emotions as well as those I am communicating with. By knowing where their emotions are coming from it will be useful in knowing how to console them or empathize with them. A key concept in communicating effectively and being a good listener is to understand your audience.
I discussed with a co-worker today the idea of all our emotions stemming from love and fear. It was a pretty interesting conversation. We went through all the emotions we could think of and trace them back to their roots. It was really fun to point out that jealousy stems from fear, etc.
I'm not quite sure how to apply this knowledge to communications. In a way it is useful to better understand my own emotions as well as those I am communicating with. By knowing where their emotions are coming from it will be useful in knowing how to console them or empathize with them. A key concept in communicating effectively and being a good listener is to understand your audience.
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